Can you break the pattern of choosing the wrong man?

My best friend, who also happens to be my sister, is now living in Chicago. I spent numerous days AND nights trying to convince her to move here. Unfortunately (but fortunately), it took a horrendous event to make this move happen. Janice had moved to Madison to start a life with a very much older man she was dating. I remember thinking AND saying, "Forget Madison! Come to Chicago!" And as every "Dao woman" would be, Janice was stubborn and wanted to work at this relationship. Well, it didn't work out; thus the move to Chicago.

She's starting from scratch, which is one of the hardest things to do. I admire her for her strength. As I watch her get back into the dating scene, I notice that she is still attracted to men at least 10 years older. That worries me. What is it about "older" men that appeals to her? Is it the sense of stability? Men are finally accomplished at this age? Or does she need a fatherly figure to make up for the fact that she never had one? Can she break the pattern of always choosing older men?

The biggest question is, have I broken the pattern of choosing the wrong man? More to come.